Thursday, February 28, 2013

Lesson 9: Communication and Mutual Problem-Solving

I learned some very important things this week. Mainly that communication is SO IMPORTANT in marriage. And before I was kind of disillusioned because communication seemed like the fix-all buzz word in marriage. Butttt...it's true. A strong marriage is based on a strong friendship, and a strong friendship is based on knowing what the other person loves and hates. Our teacher cited the example of back rubs. You can let the other person know what you like and what you don't like and they can tailor better to you and it's a better experience for both of you! Be aware of what your spouse likes and do those things. If your husband HATES skim milk, don't buy skim milk! Those tiny contributions are all drops in the bucket, and there are no shortcuts. If you are focused on fulfilling your spouse's needs and your spouse is focused on your needs, both of your needs will be fulfilled and your marriage will bloom. I think communication makes all the difference between living heart-to-heart instead of just side-by-side. Also, I learned that your spouse becomes pretty much your everything once you get married. Yes, you still have friends, but things will be different than when you were single. All I can say is...my future husband had BETTER be my best friend! And he'd better be funny. Or eternity is going to be a LONG time.

Hopefully this link lasts forever! Communication and Solving Conflict

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